Rumpelstitskin, Belle, and the Bachelorette: Fairy Tales and True Love

Now that Once Upon a Time is over for the season, what is there to live for, really? I cried excessively as Prince Charming and Snow White were reunited in Storybrooke (just thinking about the moment he cried “Snow!” is making me teary-eyed),¬†yet¬†I was disappointed that Rumpelstiltskin did not react as much to Belle. I thought that after years of missing her, he would have given up his magical pursuits to be with her.

I supposed that would have been too much like a fairy tale. As much as he loves Belle, it’s just not enough.¬† The moment the curse was lifted and¬†she remembered him, we didn’t¬†get a beautiful, sweet, romantic¬†moment full of “I’m sorry” and “I love you.” He¬†was too absorbed in his own¬†power to¬†live happily ever after with Belle. I wonder if that will be a significant part of next season’s story line.

In other fairy tale news, the Bachelorette is quickly turning into an obsession. I love Emily Maynard; she’s so sweet. Hopefully, as a single mom, she’ll bring a¬†bit more class to the show. Still though, you wonder why a single mom who’s been engaged twice would trust reality television to find a good husband. I hope it works out for her.

Why is it that we all love fairy tales, no matter how old we are? Maybe it’s because in today’s world, true love is often a rare, elusive dream. I wonder if the reason it’s so rare in the 21st century is the lax sexual morals of the last 50 years. “Free love” is one of those instances where you get what you pay for. Real, true, Corinthians 13 love comes from total selflessness and giving. It comes from a philosophy¬†in which the¬†love between a husband and wife is¬†one of the most¬†beautiful and sacred of gifts. Love¬†is patient. Love is kind. And when people do their best to live beautiful, honest, selfless lives, they find the truest love the world has ever seen.

 
Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, (love) is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. ~1 Corinthians 13

Will Rumpelstiltskin and Belle have their Happily Ever After?

First of all, I just want to¬†say that making Rumpelstiltskin¬†the Beast was GENIUS. I’ve been re-watching Sunday’s episode “Skin Deep” all week. Rumpelstiltskin as the Beast made the fairy tale become so much more real. Beauty and the Beast (Disney version) is a beautiful story, but severely flawed in the sense that you’re teaching little girls that¬†controlling¬†men with severe temper issues can change overnight if you love them enough: so not true in real life. Once Upon a Time’s version, though, gave the Beast a whole deeper dimension. He’s been through¬† a lot in his life, and is currently cursed with a deep dark power. Though he loves Belle,¬†he doesn’t believe¬†that she can’t truly love him back. In order to love her, he has to give up his power, a sacrifice that he was not willing to make.

Now we have a very interesting turn of events. Regina and Mr. Gold now officially know that each other are in fact Rumpelstiltskin and the Evil Queen. Mr.Gold/Rumpel is severely angry with the Queen/Regina, as it was his distrust of her that led him to assume that Belle was working for Regina. He let Belle go, and then the Queen told him that Belle committed suicide. Rumpel is severely hurt, damaged, grieving over Belle and harboring seething anger towards the Queen. The Queen/Regina now knows for sure that Mr. Gold/Rumpelstiltskin remembers everything, and she is keeping Belle (who is alive) hidden in an underground psych ward.

So what’s next? I really hope that Belle and Rumpelstiltskin¬†have another chance at the end. I’m sure Regina will bring them face to face again to try to¬†undo Rumpelstiltskin’s¬†power. In a surprising turn of events, Rumpelstiltskin is starting to become a character that we feel for, now that we know he was a normal man once and that all his anger and craziness stems from the many¬†horrible things that happened to him.

Does loving the Beast ever work out?

In this episode, the Queen¬†says, “I would never tell a¬†woman to kiss the man who’s holding her captive! What kind of message is that?”¬†This brings us back to the whole¬†issue with the message¬†of the Beauty and the Beast fairytale. It’s true, emotionally¬† or physically abusive¬†men almost never change, and a woman should never stick around to find out. That being said, is there anything positive that we can glean from this? Is it ever possible for someone to change?

Magic and fairy tales aside, true love changes people. When someone is truly loved, and truly loves someone else, they change into a better person. Sometimes it’s not so obvious, and sometimes it takes a while, but it happens. I remember once, when I met a cousin of mine’s girlfriend, I knew immediately that he would marry her. For the first time in¬†his life he seemed completely grown-up, mature, strong and stable. It’s not that he wasn’t a good person before, it’s just that once he met her, he started to shine. They’ve been married almost 3 years.

When you know you are loved, you want to be better, at least for that person. You stop thinking about “me” and start thinking about “you”. True love can transform people. It’s what we were designed for. Maybe that’s why, in the fairy tales, true love’s kiss solves all the problems. In the real world, it’s not an instant change, but it can be just as real.

What’s happening with Sheriff Graham? ABC’s Once Upon a Time Continues…

Last night’s episode of Once Upon a Time was all about Sheriff Graham. It revealed that yes, he was the huntsman who saved Snow White’s life. When the Evil Queen found out the truth, she stole the huntsman’s heart right out of his chest and put it in her vault. Later in the real world,¬†Sheriff Graham figures out the truth, decided to find his heart, and discovers he loves Emma. 5 minutes later when he dumps¬†Regina (Evil Queen), she goes to her vault and crushes Graham’s heart, thereby killing him.

So now we know the Evil Queen/Regina has access to her vault from the fairy tale world. If she can go back to her world, can anyone else? And if Graham figured out the truth before he died, will anyone else? How did the curse weaken for him? Henry said it’s because of his connection with Emma. If that were the case, wouldnt Snow White (Mary Margaret) have figured it out now too, since Emma is her daughter?

Graham’s story was beautiful and sad all at once. He had a strong conscience, a free spirit, and a loving heart. I really hope they find a way to bring him back. Maybe his death won’t count in the fairy tale world, since it happened in the real world. Or maybe he’s really gone for good. I see how his death gave a lot of depth to the story, but killing someone so beloved so early on is really upsetting. My mom and James were both really ticked off and said the show was really disappointing.

What do you think? Was Graham’s death an exciting twist or needless and upsetting? Is he coming back? Also… what’s going to happen to his wolf friend? The wolf was there the night Emma crashed, and lead them to Regina’s vault. What’s the significance here?

Once Upon a Time Dec. 4 2011

If you missed last night’s show and don’t want to know what happens, stop reading. But basically, we saw Prince James’s story, found out that the original Prince James died long ago in the Fairy Tale world, and OUR Prince James was his secret twin brother who grew up on a farm and only became the prince about a day or so¬†before the episode where he meets Snow White. And of course it was all Rumpelstiltskin’s doing. I seriously think this guy is the real mastermind behind everything and the queen is just one of his pawns.

Exciting news, Prince James leaves his “real world” wife Katherine to be with Snow White… then remembers Katherine and ditches Snow to go work on his marriage. Usually I’m pro-marriage but that episode I found myself yelling at the screen when he left Snow “Mary Margaret Blanchard” by the creek.

Next week, we find out the identity of Sheriff Graham. Based on the trailers, it looks like he really was the queen’s guard who let Snow White go free after he was ordered to kill her. That’s what I’ve had my money on from the beginning. I can’t wait to find out!! May I just also add that I am completely bummed that after next Sunday, a new episode won’t air until January? Please ABC, you’re killing me!

In other news, Ben F is coming back in the Bachelor. I’m so excited to see what happens to they guy, he seems so sweet (and a little naive). Hopefully he doesn’t disappoint the way Jake did.